We all lie right? If you want to make a room full of people uncomfortable, just ask that question. I’ve come to realize we live in a society woefully obsessed not with finding the truth, but exposing liars. That in itself has made it easier to deceive one another. Or as one writer put it; Honesty is more than not lying. It is truth telling, truth speaking, truth living and truth loving.
Everyone is out to expose someone else. But we spend the bulk of our time pointing fingers and avoiding the lies we tell ourselves. How crazy is that? We lie to ourselves about everything from wearing designer clothes instead of non-name brand, even when it is breaking our budgets. We lie about the person we date when we know they’re a jerk. Dr. Courtney S. Warren, adjunct professor at the University of Nevada says, “We cannot be honest with others until we are first honest with ourselves. When we deceive ourselves, we often burden and damage our romantic relationships. Being honest requires deliberate effort on a daily basis and tolerating some painful realizations. Yet, by observing our emotions, thoughts, and behaviors, we can learn about who we really are and give ourselves the opportunity to change.” This tells me that our relationships with others either rise or fail based on the level of self-honesty we operate in. So in essence, it is us, not the other person who may be at the root of many relational issues going on.
Here’s another question to ponder; Are you ready to tell yourself the truth? Before you jump to a resounding YES, weigh the query carefully. Being honest with yourself is not as easy as it sounds. It requires a firm grasp of reality and the guts to speak it. Sadly, many are far more comfortable living in a house of lies and never facing their mirrors. Here are a few of the biggest lies we have resolved to tell ourselves:
The next time you’re gazing into a mirror take a moment to ponder the words of the 1975 classic hit from The Eagles, “Lying Eyes” when it says, “You can’t hide your lying eyes. And your smile is a thin disguise. I thought by now you’d realize, there isn’t no way to hide your lying eyes.” Remember, one of the greatest representations of courage in our present day is having the audacity to tell yourself the truth.
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