Recently while having a casual conversation with my daughter about a cute picture she posted I attempted to compliment her when she interrupted me by saying, “Dad, I woke up like this. I’m flawless!” Of course she was joking around but her statement made me rethink a very commonplace cliché that I hear all the time.
The concept of being ‘flawless’ is nothing new. For as long as I can remember women have enjoyed being glamorous and men have loved seeing it. When I researched the origin of the word, I found out in Latin flawless is ‘Expletus’ and means to be without blemish. It further means to be complete or finished and perfect in nature. Right off the bat we see that this state is impossible to reach. How many flawless people have you seen? Exactly, it does not exist. The deeper issue is why society has the need to pretend to be something no other human will ever attain.
In her song titled Flawless, Beyoncé states she wakes in the morning flawless. What an amazing amount of pressure to put on her listeners. I mean after all, have you seen her? She’s gorgeous. Her hair, make-up and wardrobe is impeccable. And on the surface, it can seem like a mountain to live up to. But here’s the reality; it takes an army of glam soldiers to get her red carpet ready! No human wakes up looking like her at the Grammy’s. I’m sure the Queen Bae would love for us to think differently. But let’s just be real about it.
Here is the real deal with why there’s a big flaw in trying to live your life flawless:
So by now it should be starting to sink in that the perfect state of flawlessness will never happen for you. And more than that, it shouldn’t even be something we seek. I think what makes this journey through humanity so interesting is how we are all on our own path of development. While we travel separately, we all have the same desire. We want to be better tomorrow than we were today. It is told that in ancient times when the Japanese mend a crack in a piece of pottery, they aggrandize the damage by filling the cracks with pure gold. They believed that when something has suffered damage and has a history it becomes more beautiful and valuable. So it was common to see all sorts of pots and containers with slivers of gold. Just like us, it was its flaws that gave it such character.
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