Carolyn’s parents are Joe & Ethel Herring of Lake City, Florida and Virginia Herring of Warrensburg, MO. She and her husband, Pastor Marcus L. Moore, have 11 children: Sparkle, Promiss, Marquis, Paradise, Nicolette, Bless, Malik and Princess-Star. Their additional children are from her deceased brother. They are Summer, Gregory L, and Gregory Q. The Moore family are members of Norhside Missionary Baptist Church, Tampa, FL. There she is over the Arts Ministry and assist Pastor Moore with Marriage Ministry and Children’s Church. Carolyn has a Bachelors degree
Carolyn has a Bachelors degree in Mass Communications, a Masters of Cosmetology, a Teaching License and an Associates of Science degree in Radio & Television Broadcasting with a minor in Theatre. She has several certifications through her life in the Navy as well as training with Department of Human Services as a caseworker, DOL, ACS, State of Colo, and City Admin. Carolyn was also the Production Manager of national publication, Upscale Magazine in Atlanta.
In 1992, after her grandmother passed away, she decided to take back what the devil stole from her life. The words of encouragement from her grandmother; during her passing, empowered her to “Let Go and Let God.” Her grandmother’s last words gave her the strength to stand and to no longer struggle with domestic violence. She later joined the Navy to learn to stand and fight back. Carolyn says, “I was sick and tired of being sick and tired.”
After 10 years, she divorced her ex-husband. He had choked her unconsciously. The threat of leaving him created the violence. Kicking & shoving, verbal abuse, kidnapping, throwing her out of moving cars, facial elbowing, as well as being thrown down stairs was a normal daily life. Her ex-husband would lock her up in houses, to keep her from going to the police. When he broke her leg, she spent a week in jail on subpoena hold for not showing up to court. Her ex was violent, dominating, controlling and intimidating. When she’d escape, he’d find her and force her back home. He’d steal her car, purse, kidnap the children and empty her bank account.
After being the talk of the town, “Shoptalk,” Carolyn was forced to shut down her beauty shop. She and her children were left with no food, shelter, or clothing. Carolyn’s girlfriend tried to help her by giving her a place to hide and money to run. When her ex would find her, he’d ask, “Are you ready to come back?”
When was enough, enough for Carolyn? She said, “It was enough when my ex threw my 7 month old baby out of his van window.” When he threw her out the window, it was an identical scene from the movie Color Girls.
Carolyn says, “My trials and tribulation have allowed me to turn my life story into testimonies. Oasis Speaks, my national speaking ministry, is about love, unity and patience. I talk about how God will send a Real Man like he did for me. He needs to be someone that will treat you like a queen. When Oasis speaks, it is about my life story and an effort to help others that are living in violent relationships.” Oasis speaks is an organization that presents speaks nationally for colleges, high schools, DHS, employment trainings, and national conferences.
“I am a survivor of domestic violence and I know that if it were not for my struggles, victims would not listen to my testimony. Victims listen to those that understand what they are going through. I want them to know that there is “Life after Abuse,” says Carolyn. She is now a playwright, producer, actress and director of plays: “The Gift of Giving”, “Women Shoptalk While Real Men Wait”, and “Confessions.”
Oasis speaks is a clear understanding that God created your temple and not to let man or woman to destroy it. Oasis Speaks about physical and verbal abuse and how if it happens once, it will happen again. Oasis Entertainment produces theatrical stage plays that are used as an effort of healing. Oasis Speaks to both the victims and batterers.
Oasis Speaks invites victims in shelters to attend the play, “Women Shoptalk, while Real Men Wait” free. This is Carolyn’s way of reaching out hoping to heal victims. If you are reading this, and you are in an abusive relationship, Carolyn says, “Get out before it’s too late. Tomorrow’s not promised to you.”
Remember you are a Gift from God and you have a PURPOSE IN LIFE!
I am Carolyn Moore of Oasis Entertainment and Oasis Speaks, a motivational speaker.
Oasis Speaks on subjects such as domestic violence and finding your purpose in life. I present to conferences, organizations, agencies, churches, colleges, high schools and trainings for the state. My presentations relate to my personal story of being a survivor of domestic violence, and the triumph of my Life after abuse. You can find my personal testimony and profile on this web site. The site shares the details of my life story and how I overcame being abused. My life after abuse is my playwright of producing inspirational stage plays with the hopes to impact people in a positive way.
It is my desire to “Let my light so shine before men that they may see my Good works and Glorify Him which is in Heaven.” God has allowed me to survive many tragedies in my life and I hope to make an impact on others that may be going through the same struggle. I hope to help as many people as I can by encouraging them to get out and get help before it’s too late. I also speak to the batterers. I seek to encourage batterers to go to counseling and utilize their community resources in a support group. They need to refrain from hurting others due to their past pain.
Although I had a horrible abusive past, I know my testimony will help others. I have turned my abuse into a positive tool. As a motivational speaker, I seek to empower victims to seek and find their purpose in life. Once you realize God did not create you to allow others to tear you down, help, healing and recovery is on the way.
My presentations include skits or full theatrical productions about domestic violence. My most recent sold-out production, “Women Shoptalk while Real Men Wait,” is a true life story about my domestic violent life. I use theatre productions such as Shoptalk to help others visually see how abuse can be fatal. I have found that after abuse skits, people recognize and identify themselves in a stage characterization. Theatre has been an awakening call for many people.
As a Presenter and motivational speaker, I present the topic, “When Enough is Enough.” I present this topic to Human Service Agencies and business organizations. I have found success stories when I have spoken at workshops, colleges and to high school students. I have also spoken during conferences at their workshops and trainings. The results of these empowered workshops have been phenomenal. To see and hear the emotional stories of people that decide to make positive changes, this gives me joy. There have even been several confessions from offenders wanting to get help. Victims, leaders, employees, supervisors, ministers, and managers, after attending my presentation, decide to leave abusive relationship and get help.
Can anyone really help me? Is there a point in your life that you ever say, “I’m sick and tired of being sick and tired?” Is enough ever enough? Is there really life after abuse? Should I get out before it’s too late? Should I stay for my children? Those are questions I use to ask myself.
I have found through my own life experience that parents can take out their frustrations on their children and not realize they have hurt the child. Parents use children in a tug-a-war, and the child ends up being abused and used as a bargaining tool. Children and parents need counseling after living in abusive homes. Once children are abused, children may become the batterer. They have acquired learned behavior or may accept adult abusive relationships when they become an adult. Parents need to realize that they as victims can also become the batterer in new relationships.